I’ve Learned………

I’ve Learned

by Omer B. Washington

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you.
All you can do is be someone who can be loved.
The rest is up to them.
I’ve learned that no matter how much I care,
some people just don’t care back.
I’ve learned that it takes years to build up trust
and only seconds to destroy it.
I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life
but who you have in your life that counts.
I’ve learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.
After that, you’d better know something.

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself
to the best others can do,
but to the best you can do.
I’ve learned that it’s not what happens to people,
It’s what they do about it.
I’ve learned that no matter how thin you slide it,
there are always two sides.
I’ve learned that you should always leave loved ones with loving words.
It may be the last time you’ll see them.
I’ve learned that you can keep going
long after you think you can’t.

I’ve learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done
When it needs to be done,
regardless of the consequences.
I’ve learned that there are people who love you dearly,
but just don’t know how to show it.
I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry,
but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.
I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
I’ve learned that just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to
doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have.

I’ve learned that no matter how good a friend is,
they’re going to hurt you every once in a while
and you must forgive them for that.
I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others.
Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken,
the world doesn’t stop for your grief.
I’ve learned that our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are,
but we are responsible for who we become.
I’ve learned that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other.
And just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned that sometimes you have to put the individual
ahead of their actions.
I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing
and see something totally different.
I’ve learned that no matter the consequences,
those who are honest with themselves go farther in life.
I’ve learned that your life can be changed in a matter of hours
by people who don’t even know you.
I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to give,
when a friend cries out to you,
you will find the strength to help.

I’ve learned that writing,
as well as talking,
can ease emotional pains.
I’ve learned that the people you care most about in life
are taken from you too soon.
I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice
and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.
I’ve learned to love
and be loved.
I’ve learned…

Moonchild

Oh little moon child in dandelion field
Toes in the grass, a flower in your hair
Magical eyes waiting for moon  revealed
Sun going down, painting amber across the sky

Gentle breeze blows, swaying deep emerald trees
Butterflies flutter, as your lips let out a precious sigh
Moon enters night,kissing softly stars shinning bright
Beautiful glow captivating your warm and tender heart

Oh little moon child, your soul now dances in the halo of light

Eyes Wide Open

There are some actions that can open your eyes very wide. You see someone you thought you knew very well in a whole new light and it shocks you, that you could have  been so easily fooled, that someone could hide who they really are so well and for such  a long time.

How easy it is to throw out blame and accusation rather than  take responsibility for the consequences of  actions which you prefer not to accept. Unfortunately, the response I received nothing more than I had anticipated, but I was hoping  just for once to be proved wrong.

I have never truly despised anyone before but then no one before has ever given me reason.

Hindsight is a wonderful thing, it’s such a shame that it comes after and not before.

Poetry In Motion

The Too Much
by Christa Bell

I
Couldn’t have been more beautiful
Than I was last night.
I couldn’t have been sexier,
Juicier,
Or more luscious.
My ass couldn’t have been bigger
Or glowed more brightly.
My teeth couldn’t have been whiter,
Skin softer,
Hair shinier.
I couldn’t have smelled any sweeter,
Been nicer,
Skinnier,
Funnier,
Or more holy.

And still I was not enough
For you.
‘Not enough,’
My friends tell me,
Will never be my issue.
They say it’s ‘the too much’
That leaves lovers like me
Strangled by our own question marks.

You see—
Some women love lightly,
Like whispers wrapped in spun sugar.
And these are the ones who make it so hard
For the blue-black molasses
Ever-lasting taffy kind of love
That overwhelms the tongue.
They make it hard for those of us who,
Due to circumstances beyond our control,
Are destined to always
Over-love with a vengeance.

We are the spell-casting blue magic witches,
Mixing menstrual fluid into barbeque sauce.
We will gather your pubic hairs under the new moon
And bottle them in our piss.
Our territory is blood and dreams,
Past lives and other states over which
You have no control.

Be warned: you will lose all control.

So if you really need to keep it,
If you can’t keep it real,
If intensity and complexity
Just ain’t your thing,
If you can’t handle the truth,
Then brethren—fuck you.

‘Cause in this house of worship
There is no room for emotions
That judge and demand regret
For our pleasure.
If forty-eight hours later was too soon
For you to be in my mouth,
Than you shouldn’t have come there.
But don’t you tell me it’s my fault.
Every way I am is divine.
I won’t feel guilty.
I just won’t be ashamed.
I will not hide this story.
My craft obligates me to tell the truth.

And, brothers, y’all need to know:
If too much sugar makes you sick,
Spoils your appetite for even the smell of dinner,
There are certain flavors of women
You should not consume.
‘Cause tasting even a little bit
Of what you know you can’t swallow
Is
Just
Disrespectful.

Alo…..who?

Alopecia… one word that strikes dread through anyone who is told that they have it.

The hair – the crowning glory – slowly and then more rapidly makes a dramatic exit stage left, usually smiling up at you from the pillow or laughing at you from the shower drain. It is initially just a little concern. Is my hair a little thinner today? Creating more and more alarm as you notice that what was once manageable and easy to style, is becoming less and less.

There are many forms of alopecia, it’s a minefield to try to find out which one you have and what to do about it. Some are less severe than others, but all forms are a nightmare for the sufferer.

There are many causes. An initial visit to the doctor for blood tests will rule out illness – thyroid problems, hormone changes or lack of iron – leaving the sufferer deep in the unknown. Will it grow back? who knows! 75% of alopecia sufferers who lose hair through stress, pregnancy, shock, poor diet or a combination of these, will eventually see their hair return perhaps in 3 to 6 months or so. For the other 25%…….??

Stress, anxiety and pregnancy are the major causes of alopecia for women. The hair loss will start to show about 3 months after the initial cause of the stress and will unfortunately continue until the stress is removed, but, loss of hair causes anxiety, you worry and stress over the hair loss resulting in…… great!!

So what do you do?

1)  Cry
2) Cry a bit more
3) Try to hide the thin bits. This helps
4) Panic when the hair thins so much that you cannot hide the thin bits
5) Cry again (this serves no purpose at all!)
6) Eventually, give up and either live with the problem or buy a wig

There is nothing that removes your confidence more than a bad hair day. Living with that and worse every day is totally draining. The initial reaction once things start to get bad is to hide away. Who really wants to go outside with barely any hair and no confidence? It’s not a solution, but the reaction is understandable.

Vitamins and a good diet will help a little, but be prepared for the long haul, this is not a two week illness that will miraculously disappear.